Each ride-day the Light the Trail team will #Ride4 a victim of suicide to honor and celebrate their life, and to further healthy conversation about this important topic. If there’s someone you’d like us to #Ride4, please visit the #Ride4 page.

September 10, 2017: #Ride4 Tommy Arbo (by Sandra Arbo)

Tell us about them…

My husband Tommy was a great husband and such a proud daddy. He worked hard to provide for us. Always willing to lend a helping hand. He was funny..loved to make us all laugh. Forrest Gump and Rain Man impressions and Adam Sandler’s Lunch Lady song, and the truffle shuffle were his specialties. At family gatherings you would find him playing with the kids. He loved animals and being out in the woods hunting or fishing. He was my best friend. My loving, tender-hearted, compassionate, funny, strong, dependable, handsome, blue-eyed best friend. The proudest and most devoted daddy to our son.

How has your perspective of depression and suicide shifted over time?

I was frustrated when he wouldn’t fight through his depression to get back to his normal self. I thought we, his family, were worth fighting through. But I get it now. When you are in such a deep, dark place with no hope, you just don’t see clearly. All you want is for the pain to end. Mental well-being is everything.

A small special way we can celebrate them on the road?

Feed a bird or any form of wildlife.

Is there a particular favorite song or band of theirs, or one you remember them by?

David Lee Murphy’s Dust On The Bottle. Travis Tritt, Ricochet, Neal McCoy. Country fan. Our wedding song was I Do by Paul Brandt.

 

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